We have a tendency to think that our successes are monumental, and our failures are catastrophic. It seems that we’ve been conditioned to live our lives going from one extreme to another: ecstasy, to sorrow; elation, to depression; unstoppable drive, to unmoving frustration.
But as John Addison explained, this mindset doesn’t reflect reality. When we succeed, we need to temper our expectations: successes are temporary, and should be treated as that needed boost to go even further. Similarly, when we inevitably fail, we need to treat it as an extra bit of motivation to double down and try even harder.
A failure isn’t a lifestyle, and one success isn’t a promise for another. Rather, each need to be used to fuel our push to do and be better. Learn to live in the middle, conscious of what each outcome could be, and ready to use every setback or success to go even further.